Photo by Vicentiu Stupar from Pexels When it comes to succeeding in any endeavor, there's a common belief that if you put in enough time and effort, you'll be successful. "Hustle culture" has therefore been adopted as a badge of distinction in our society.


Maybe there's another option. Maybe it's not even the most efficient method to go about it?


Observe anybody who has achieved success, and you'll discover that they aren't always the most talented or competent in their industry.


Their success isn't guaranteed by whatever inherent talent they possess. Experts in their area may often be hired to supplement their own abilities.

Identifying Your Natural Abilities

A successful person has an extraordinary capacity to choose and select events that fit him or her, rather than striving to conform to the circumstances. To put it simply, they know what they can do better than anybody else in the world and use it to their advantage.


Getting so giddy and passionate during a sales presentation that the audience is sucked in by your enthusiasm is a common occurrence for some. When it comes to others, it's the ability to look their workers in the eye and express their emotions when they're speaking to them.


In truth, everyone of us already has a certain manner we depend on when we're successful. It's a habit we've picked up through time since it works and is comfortable.

All that remains is for us to discover what it is.

What's the point of trying to climb this tree if you're just like a fish?

True to our nature, most of us are doing all we can to undermine our natural talents.

You may have learned to "tone it down" as a child if you grew up in a home where you were "too much." Schools may have coached you out of your natural ability. Or maybe you're in a position where you're not sure how to make use of them.

Take, for example, the following remark, which is often (but not always) ascribed to Albert Einstein:

"It doesn't matter who you are or what you do. Those who assess a fish by the capacity to climb a tree will doom the fish to a lifetime of ignorance.

In a highly controlled business setting, a person who is really free and fun will have a difficult time. As much as someone who is very systematic may find a rule-free, creative environment unappealing.

Being the greatest at everything isn't the path to success. If you know precisely what your natural talents are, then you can use them to your advantage.

If you know what your natural talents are, you have a recipe for success that is unique to you.

Is There a Way for Me to Discover My Own Powers?

We must first determine the origins of intrinsic skills and how they relate to the nebulous concept of "purpose" before we can determine what they are.

People often come up to me and say, "I've finally found out my purpose because of the job that I perform." Life counselor, writer, entrepreneur: "I'm destined to do this." That's excellent, by the way.

In order to accomplish anything, you must be able to fail at it as well. And it doesn't make any sense at all, either. Is it possible to fail at anything if your goal is to accomplish it?

If you can accomplish a goal, it implies you didn't have it at some time in the past. So, as a baby, did you feel purposeless? Both of those things are absurd.

As a newborn, you had a certain role to play. However, you had no accomplishments to show for it. In the beginning, you didn't even have any talents or skills.

Sensitivities were all you had.

A Sensitive Person Has...

There are some things that each newborn is sensitive to, and this varies from baby to baby.

If your baby is like others, they like staring their mothers in the eyes. It's these infants who require a little more attention. They get more sensitive to being left out or rejected as they become older because they are more attuned to connections.

Because they understand what it's like to be left out and have spent their whole lives perfecting the abilities of what they're sensitive to, they frequently become fantastic networkers and hosts.

To be successful in all aspects of life, these individuals need to make others feel close to them, offer them plenty of eye contact, and reveal intimate facts about their lives.

In addition to that, what about the other infants in the womb? Some newborns are particularly sensitive to the sensation of being overjoyed. Their favorite pastimes include hiding in plain sight and being hurled in the air. As they become older, they have a propensity to become restless and in quest of new thrills and spills.

They have a way of energizing conversations and are excellent public speakers. When it comes to taking enormous chances, they're the sort of people that thrive on the adrenaline rush.

It is not uncommon to come across newborns that are hyper-sensitive to a range of emotions, from fear to excitement to joy to complete trust.

A purpose isn't that you were born to be a life coach; it's that you have a calling. One of the reasons why getting life coaching seems so worthwhile to you is that you have a high threshold for such things.

What we're most sensitive to is the source of our innate skills. You'll have greater natural skills in a certain field if you've had more experience with it via your senses than everyone else.

Discover your intrinsic strengths and how to use them for success by mapping your most sensitive senses. This will reveal what you do unconsciously every time you succeed.

Map My Sensitivities: How Do I Do This?

Identifying your intrinsic qualities may seem difficult, and it may need taking lengthy exams on leadership style or conducting polls amongst your family and friends.

However, because you're always aware of what's going on around you, it's simple to figure out what you're most sensitive to. What matters most is just how you're feeling at the time.

Before we get into how to unleash your natural qualities for success, let's do this little activity to see what you're sensitive to.

Exercising One's Sensitivities

A sheet of paper is required for this activity. It should just take 5 to 10 minutes to complete this workout.

Step 1:

List three occupations you've had throughout the course of your career, and three emotions you helped others experience while doing those duties in each of those positions.

As an example, imagine if you were a high school teacher who instilled confidence in your pupils, provided a comfortable environment for them to study, and encouraged their interest in the subject matter.

Step 2:

Think back to one of the most difficult times in your life. Make a list of three things you felt at the time, and three things you wish you had felt.

We may use the death of a loved one as an example of how this can be a difficult time for a person. You want a sense of belonging, affection, and support.

Step 3:

Think about one of the happiest times in your life and recall it. Make a list of three emotions you were experiencing at the time.

Take your wedding day, for example, when you were overjoyed, fun, and content.

After you've completed these fast questions, check for any terms that appear more than once or that sound very much the same. A same meaning may be conveyed by the words "heard," "comprehended," and "received." As a result, you may feel as though you're "attached" and "intimate."

Even with this brief and basic activity, our sensitivity is shown by the patterns we experience most strongly. Look for at least four or five distinct sensitivities in repeating patterns.

What's Next?

Where things begin to become interesting is here. Once you've figured out what triggers your hypervigilance, I want you to reflect on a period when you were very successful in your career.

Is it possible that you exhibited these sensitivities without even realizing it?

Imagine that you've "comprehended" and "played" with some of your sensitivity notes. How did you assist the other person feel understood, while at the same time, make the encounter joyful and playful?

Were you one of those people?

A natural talent makes it work. If a project doesn't play to your strengths because you don't feel understood or fun, you're more likely to fail.

As a result, here are a few pointers for achieving success.

1. Before you begin any project, be sure you have all the information you need by asking plenty of questions.
2. Check to ensure that everyone is on the same page.
3. Fun and team-building activities should be prioritized.
4. When you find yourself in a rut, turn on some music and get your body moving.
5. Make your ideas into fun games.

If you can create a professional or personal environment that allows you to experience those sensitivities, you will be more successful in the long run.

When something doesn't work out, the reasons behind this are often evident. Go over your list of sensitivity to see which of your natural talents you're not displaying and then devise a plan to bring that out.

Get a Feeling of Sitting Down for Coffee with a Friend

Even this simplified version may be life-changing since it clarifies why something worked or didn't work for you in the past and what you can do about it. I've helped tens of thousands of individuals uncover their intrinsic skills over the last decade.

In order to succeed, you must regularly pick chances and partners that allow you to experience those sensitivities and concentrate on having others feel those sensitivities above everything else.

Coffee with a best friend is what we truly want—that sensation when we're simply talking and hours go by, creativity comes out of us, and we forget to try.

When you're feeling confident, what do you automatically do? A successful person does something they don't even realize they're doing.

What if public speaking engagements had the same euphoric quality to them? Is this a commercial? Or what about gatherings of the whole team? Or even difficult discussions with a friend or partner?

It's possible to discover your unique talents and skills by identifying what makes you sensitive.

Connecting over coffee or enthralling your audience with a compelling narrative can help you determine which strategy works best. You can tell whether a "creative" brainstorming session or a "organized" meeting would be more effective based on your experience.

Instead of the other way around, you change your approach to match the scenario. Your greatest and quickest route to success is clear when you are aware of your intrinsic strengths.